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How I Wish You Were Here. Dance to the sad song... here's why.

Dancing is often associated with joy, energy, and celebration. We might think of upbeat pop songs, dance anthems, or club bangers that make us want to move our bodies and feel the rhythm. But what about sad music? Can it also make us want to dance? Surprisingly, the answer is yes, and there are several reasons why.

Firstly, dancing to sad music can be a form of emotional release. Sometimes, we need to express our sadness, grief, or pain in a physical way, and dancing can provide an outlet for that. When we dance to sad music, we can channel our emotions into movement and let go of any tension or negativity we might be holding onto. We can move our bodies freely, without judgment, and feel a sense of release and catharsis.

Secondly, dancing to sad music can be a way to connect with others. When we share a love for a particular sad song, we might feel a sense of camaraderie with others who also appreciate it. Dancing together can create a sense of community and shared experience, even if we are all processing our emotions in different ways. We can connect with others through our shared love of the music and the movement, and feel a sense of belonging.

Thirdly, dancing to sad music can be a way to find beauty in sadness. When we listen to sad music, we might feel a range of emotions, from despair to nostalgia to melancholy. But we can also find beauty in these emotions, and in the music itself. Dancing can be a way to appreciate the beauty of sadness, to celebrate the complexities of human emotion, and to find meaning and purpose in our feelings.

In conclusion, dancing to sad music might seem counterintuitive at first, but it can be a powerful way to process emotions, connect with others, and find beauty in sadness. Whether we are dancing alone in our room or with a group of friends, we can let the music move us and experience the joy, release, and connection that comes with dancing to sad songs.

What if the tears come? Well, more power to you. Here's some health bits about crying.

Crying is often seen as a sign of vulnerability or weakness, especially in certain cultures or social contexts. However, crying can actually be a healthy and beneficial way to process emotions and improve our mental and physical well-being. Here are a few reasons why crying is healthy:

  1. Crying helps us release emotions: When we cry, we are releasing pent-up emotions that we might have been holding onto, such as sadness, anger, frustration, or anxiety. This release can be cathartic and help us feel better and more relaxed afterward.

  2. Crying can reduce stress: Crying can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps us calm down and reduce stress. When we cry, our heart rate and breathing slow down, and we may feel a sense of relief and comfort.

  3. Crying can improve mood: Studies have shown that crying can improve our mood and make us feel better, even if we are crying due to sad or negative emotions. This may be because crying releases endorphins, which are feel-good chemicals in the brain.

  4. Crying can strengthen relationships: When we cry in front of others, we may feel vulnerable, but we are also showing our trust and emotional connection with them. This can help strengthen our relationships and deepen our bonds with others.

  5. Crying can promote emotional awareness and growth: When we allow ourselves to cry and feel our emotions fully, we can become more aware of our emotional needs and patterns. This can help us identify areas where we need to work on our emotional well-being and promote personal growth and development.

In conclusion, crying is a natural and healthy way to process emotions and improve our mental and physical well-being. It can help us release emotions, reduce stress, improve mood, strengthen relationships, and promote emotional awareness and growth. Instead of seeing crying as a sign of weakness, we can embrace it as a powerful tool for emotional well-being and self-care.

Here's a list of my TOP 5 ALL TIME favorite sad songs, from my melancholy heart to yours: <3

  • Wish You Were Here - Sparklehorse (Pink Floyd is great but try this cover first!)

  • Fade Into You - Mazzy Star

  • In The Aeroplane Over The Sea - Neutral Milk Hotel (actually about the lead singer's fascination with the story of Anne Frank and thus the Holocaust).

  • Shangri-La - Electric Light Orchestra (had this on repeat for most of 2013).

  • Down By The Water - The Drums (ooooo hell yeah).


Here's to your healing.

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